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Attention incoming freshman: are you scared to start school? Dreading meeting your roommate? Don’t know if you’ll be able to keep up? Take a deep breath—you’re going to be fine. What you’re feeling is completely normal, and you’re among other students who are experiencing the exact same thing. Before you freak out and question yourself, take a look at these tips for conquering freshman fears.
Fear #1: I won’t be able to make friends.
The best thing about going to college is that everyone is new, and the living and learning environments are both designed to foster social interactions between students. The majority of freshman students will know virtually no one on the day they move to school, and find that meeting people is actually pretty easy if you put yourself out there. If you’re worried about making friends, try propping your door open during the day while you and your roommate are moving in. This will let people walking by know it’s ok to come introduce themselves and help create a friendly environment on your hall.
Fear #2: I won’t like my roommate.
Getting along with a new roommate is a genuine concern for many students who may have heard horror stories from older friends about bad roommate experiences. It may be your first time sharing a room with another person, which can be difficult for even the most open-minded of people. You and your roommate may not be best friends, but odds are highly in your favor that you will be able to comfortably share a room together. Serious problems are pretty rare, and if you do experience one, your university may be able to reassign you to a different room. Keep an open mind when you meet your roommate, and you may be surprised with the outcome. Remember, it’s a two-way street–he or she is preparing to live with you, too, and may have some building nerves, so make it easy on both of you by remembering to be open and considerate in the beginning. You don’t have to be the best friends on earth, and in fact, a simple and civil living situation is perfectly adequate for the purposes of starting your college life. With a little time, however, those initial feelings of angst will soon be a distant memory.
Fear #3: I’ll miss my friends from home too much.
When you leave for college, you may think that you won’t be able to live without your friends form home. You will miss them a lot, but like you, they are away at school experiencing new things and meeting new people. If YOU don’t let missing your friends hinder you from meeting new people, then it won’t happen. Rather than sitting in your room on Skype during Welcome Week, get out with your roommate and start making new friends. By the end of freshman year, you’ll think that you won’t be able to live without your new friends either.
One of the biggest concerns college freshmen have is where and how they can make friends on campus. It’s a legitimate concern, because let’s be honest: there’s a good chance you’ll know close to nobody at your new school, and starting a new circle can seem down right daunting! But making friends at college will happen faster and easier than you think! Here are the top four places you can start.
The first place you’re likely to make a few new friends is your residence hall. This makes sense, as you’ll be spending most of your time here, so the frequency in which you’ll be seeing the guys down the hall, or the girl next door, is quite high. The residence hall is also where the college experience begins. Before you head to your first class, and before you sit amongst an audience of other freshmen listening to speeches and words of wisdom from the president and other staff, you’ll be unpacking your bags at your new room and passing those who will be living around you. Introduce yourself. Greet others as they pass you in the hall. The first people you share your meals with are probably right here.
Joining clubs and other organizations on campus is one of the best ways to make friends because you already share an interest with everyone else there! Unlike the residence hall, where you’ll be amongst other freshmen and likely those of the same gender, groups on campus give you the opportunity to meet students of all ages, both male and female! Be sure to join at least one group when you start your college career!
The people you meet in your classes, especially the classes for your major, are very likely to become your friends. Not only will a like major give you a lot in common with one another, the different experiences that brought you to the same path will give you lots to talk about! Having friends in your major is also a benefit for when you miss a day, or were unable to get the last few bit of notes! While you’ll surely meet people by introducing yourself and Facebook-friending, you’ll find class friends often just happen naturally. With four years of college and all of you needing to take the same classes, the faces in your major will become a constant. It’s harder not to make friends with them!
You’ll be surprised how many people you’ll become acquainted with because they were friends of your friends! By attending social gatherings with groups of people, you’re likely to meet many new faces where a conversation can immediately begin on how you both know a particular person!
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Making friends was so simple when you were a kid.
“Hey, want to be my friend?”
That afternoon, you’re calling their house phone, asking their parents if you “may please speak to” your new friend, and upon your newly found friend’s delighted greeting, you request that they come over and play. It was as easy as that!
But with age, you became a more complex person. Your “friend” criteria is far more in-depth than whether or not this person is of the appropriate age, not to mention your brutal honestly about seeking a friend probably won’t be as well received at eighteen as it was when you were eight.
So how do you branch out and meet people when you’re in a new environment? It might be easier than you think.
One of the greatest advantages you have being a college freshman looking to make friends is that everyone is in the same boat. Unlike starting a new job, or transferring high schools, you’re not the “new guy” trying to work your way into established cliques. There are hundreds, or even thousands of students (depending on the size of the college you’re attending), who are friendless-ly experiencing the nervousness of their first day. A little conversation with the person across the hall has never been so appreciated!
Having made my bed with light blue and yellow blankets, and having hung the last of the posters, I set forth on my first night as a college student to meet the other girls on my floor. I found almost everyone had their doors open–an inviting sign. Recognizing it would not have been appropriate to say, “want to be my friend,” I tried:
“Hi, I live down the hall in room 302. I just wanted to say hello!”
I probably met several dozen people that evening. While one or two girls, having just begun their unpacking, seemed busy and annoyed with the intrusion, almost everyone else was beyond friendly! One of my neighbors had the DVDs to my favorite TV show sitting on top of a box, and immediately, a conversation started. Another student, a theater major, was listening to her own performance of a song I also happened to have sung as a senior in high school. That began a discussion as well.
While my roommate thought I was nuts for opening myself up to strangers, the next day, I had someone to sit next to in class. I had a gym buddy. I had plans for breakfast. Further benefits came a few days later when I won the position of secretary of my residence hall. Unlike my opponent, the other girls in my dorm knew who I was. Most importantly, I had a reason to stay on campus the following weekend instead of driving the hour back home to see my old friends. I was beginning a life for myself on campus. By reaching out to your neighbors on your first day, you can too!
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