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Sibling Separation: When Leaving For College Means Leaving Them Behind

Categories: Admissions Advice

One of the most difficult aspects of leaving for college is leaving your family behind–especially your siblings who will be hanging around home for a bit longer. For some, this means leaving a person just a year or two younger than you who has practically been your best friend growing up. For others, this might mean leaving a much younger brother or sister who still has a lot of growing up you feel you may miss out on. If you’re concerned about the relationship you have with your siblings as you enter the life of a college student, check out these tips on how to preserve that special sibling connection!

Establish a Talking Plan:

Come up with a time and method for continuing to talk with your siblings on a regular basis as opposed to calling home once a week and having Mom pass the phone on down. With time set aside to focus on your siblings, you can continue to share the stories you may not want to share in front of Mom and Dad. You’ll also make your sibling feel special, and give them the confidence that you going away to school doesn’t change the closeness of your relationship. Your talking plan could be Skyping a few nights a week, tons of texting and emails, a secret code while on the phone, or even hand written letters!

Set the Dates:

Before you leave for college, come up with a few weekends or holidays you’ll make it home to see your siblings. You could even have fun the weeks prior by making plans for what you’ll do when you see one another. This will give your siblings something to look forward to, and a concrete idea of when they’ll be seeing you again.

Write your Advice:

Despite how often you’ll talk to your siblings while you’re away from college, you both may experience circumstances in which you would like to ask your sibling for their opinion, but are unable to. Before you leave, write your sibling a letter of advice regarding various situations, and have them do the same. It can be silly advice, like what to do when you split your pants at a party, serious advice, like how to handle an argument between your parents, or a combination of the two! This will give both of you something to look at in times of unsureness.

Welcome Them:

Find time to bring your siblings to your school. Show them around, take them to dinner, introduce them to your friends, and open their eyes to what your life is like on campus. If your school has a siblings weekend filled with fun activities planned for young brothers and sisters, invite them to come. Whether your sibling is just a year or two younger, or a decade younger, college is something they haven’t experienced yet and are probably curious about. They will also be comforted by having a picture in their minds for what your life is like.

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When Your Parents Don’t Want You To Go: How to Help Your Parents Adjust to You Leaving for College

Categories: College Life

You’ve been counting down the days since you’ve received your acceptance letter. You’ve been spending every paycheck buying flip-flops and a robe for the shower, new sheets for your bedroom, an office light for your desk, and notebooks for your classes. You’ve had your eye on a new laptop computer. Your GPS already has “Home” programmed to be your college address. You spend your evenings on Skype getting to know your roommate, and the moments before you fall asleep imagining yourself on campus, going to class and meeting friends. It’s going to be so great! If only your parents could see that.

While many parents are happy to see their children take the next step in their education, and may even take a little pleasure in their children moving out of the house, there are some parents who absolutely dread the idea. This can cause all sorts of stress and emotions for those leaving for college. The following is a list of tips for those who have parents who are less-than-thrilled about their children leaving home.

Try Not to Feel Bad

As the day you leave gets closer, and your parents get more upset, it’s only natural for you to start feeling bad about it. Obviously, you want them to be happy for you, not sad that you’re leaving. Remember that leaving home is a normal step everyone must take into adulthood. You haven’t done anything wrong.

Stick To Your Guns

 Don’t let your parents talk you into sticking around one more year or going to a college closer to home. If you give in now to make them happy, there’s a chance you’ll regret that decision and resent them later, making matters worse. This is your life. If going to college away from home is what’s best for you, that’s what you need to do.

Give Them Time

Having your children move out is a major adjustment for parents. They’ve spent the last eighteen years getting used to having you around. They’ve protected you your whole life, and now they can’t. In addition, sometimes children moving out is when parents begin to consider themselves “old.” Your parents are going through a lot psychologically. They may react poorly to you leaving when you receive your acceptance letter, but warm up to the idea as time goes on.

Paint Them A Detailed Picture

Parents want to know where their kids are. This doesn’t change after you’ve left for college. Help them adjust by giving them a copy of your schedule so they’ll know when you’re in class. Show them pictures of the campus. Show them a picture of your roommate. Tell them about the college and the surrounding community. If possible, bring them to the college you’ll be attending. The more information your parents have about where you are and what you’ll be doing, the more comfortable they’ll be.

Maintain Communication

Parents often fear that you leaving the house means you won’t talk to them anymore. They want to be kept in the loop. Remember to call them, text them, Facebook them, Skype them, and visit them on a regular basis.

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